Women dating white men

And so, when I realised that the vast majority of my favourite black bloggers were in relationships with white men, you can imagine why I thought I was being paranoid.

I could not help but wonder if I was falling into the trap of being hypersensitive, and hyperaware about all things race.

Someone who appreciates you and is in awe of your beauty and looks at you as though you are a painting in the Louvre.

Of course, you could question fetishization and exotic othering, but it sometimes must be nice to feel as though you are the original black Mona Lisa.

It’s no secret that black women are the least desired subgroup on dating sites.

Although it’s upsetting and frustrating, there’s something a little empowering about being seen as the least attractive group – the bottom of the barrel if you will; making each boy who swipes right a small victory against the tyranny of racism – snatching them into our black female lair, luring them in with each fluff of the afro.

It was in one fateful post in which I saw her with her white bae. She’s an avid reader and one imagines what it would be like to be her best friend: “Shall we read and chill? But first, let me head wrap.” These fantasies will forever be a goal.This is dedicated to the girls who take off their wigs in Facebook posts with a caption that reads “ripping off the shackles of slavery.” This is for the boys who wear a dashiki and caption it “Afrika with a k.” This is for the black vegans who talk about the enlightenment of casting away animal carcasses for real soul food, the kind of food that wipes away your transgressions and elevates your mind – leaving people scratching their heads like “damn, all that from a tub of hummus?” This is for the black people who are feeling really good about their wokeness right now and honestly, they really should. Crying into your i Phone as you think of the Congolese who were forced to mine the contents, or hiding as you slip Shea Moisture products into your basket, hoping no-one sees you and forces you to re-watch that .If you are told on a daily basis that people who look like you are unattractive and undeserving of love, a natural reaction would be to seek out that which is being denied to you as a form of validation of self-worth.To determine whether a love interest is a result of internalized racism would be near to impossible. No-one is suggesting that we are post-racial (words that should have you flogged) but maybe it’s just not that deep.

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