Scared dating again
One thing that did help me a little bit was a short paragraph in Dale Carnegie's How I learned to Stop Worrying and Start Living: when he was young he would worry about if he would ever find someone to get married to, how he would propose to her, what her parents would think of him, even .
That's some pure, high-grade social anxiety right there.
“Accept your past without regret, handle your present with confidence, and face your future without fear.” ~Unknown My pet fish died today. Awareness kicked in, and I realized that my thought was triggered by fear to experience an unpleasant circumstance such as this again.
Red-striped fins as beautiful as always, he was swimming around in his tank only four weeks ago. This is how our minds tend to work: After we go through a hurtful situation, we subconsciously avoid anything that we believe caused our pain.
Just knowing that these really sort of absurd fears are so common has helped me try and push them away.
Become aware of your negative thoughts as soon as they pop up, and assume the objective perspective of an observer.
Idk, I just think that I'm so far behind and it would be so much fucking work.
Plus if I get dumped I don't know how I would deal with that. I'm convinced that even if someone took a chance on me, once they actually got to know me they'd decide I'm not worth the effort.
And even if you feel that you didn’t play a role in the challenge you experienced, you can still take responsibility for your attitudes and feelings about what happened. My friend could choose to apply for a job that doesn’t require moving so often, or she could view relocation as an exciting opportunity to make friends all over the country.
My uncle could cherish the memory of his previous pet by giving a new dog all the love and care that all creatures deserve.