Friend rules dating ex
Ultimately, your friend may be completely cool with you exploring a relationship with their ex.Or, they may say that they wouldn’t be comfortable with it. And if your friend’s prerogative is a them-or-me ultimatum, you need to respect that too.The sheer concept of seeing one of my mates with an ex is something that’d affect me for a number of reasons.
Yes, you may (as many people tend to) get completely wrapped up in your own feelings and give the middle finger to anyone who tries to tell you otherwise, but if one of your besties decided to start humping your ex, would you be supportive or forgiving?Or they could simply hate this person from their past, whom you’re now curious about (hey, some breakups are especially painful).And in that case, your friend may not want you to have anything to do with the ex—to save you from future anguish. “The best way to approach this involves an open, honest conversation,” Dr. So don’t beat around the bush or ask hypothetical questions.Unless she’s a serial killer (I wouldn’t get on her bad side) or you know she is keeping 12 other lovers in addition to this one, that’s not kosher, cool, or any other variation thereof.Put yourself in your friend’s shoes and imagine how you might feel if the situation was reversed.