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By the time my Tinder date, a regular-shmegular Bay Street bro, sauntered in, my social media research confirmed that he had never dated a Black girl before.(Whether or not his ex was dead was inconclusive, but I digressed.) My suspicions aside, we chatted about our respective upbringings, interests, first jobs and last relationships over cocktails.I eventually deleted the app after one match spiralled into incessant and aggressive texts and phone calls.While my pseudo-stalker scared me off of the app, he didn’t discourage me from love altogether.Out of all the black singles you may meet online, very few of those individuals are actually compatible with you, and it can be challenging to determine the level of compatibility of a potential partner through traditional online dating methods – browsing profiles and photos.
One match’s greeting was simply “BLM.” I wondered, had the acronym for Black Lives Matter already been coopted? Even when the interactions were funny like this one, after a while, it was draining that every right swipe turned into a dead end.
I didn’t find my next partner on Tinder but I’m still hopeful that somewhere in the real world, my next match awaits.
More than anything, at 21, I am way too young to be discouraged from dating.
I would have gone from being his date to being his Black culture concierge. But I wasn’t drunk enough to forgive or forget his ignorant and annoying perspectives.
This was just one of the sobering experiences that made me realize that as a Black woman, Tinder had all the same issues I face walking through the world, just on a smaller screen.